Brother demands half of sister's $600,000 inheritance, after only receiving $25k from their grandmother, the favoritism makes him reject sister's generous offer for job and financial support instead: 'Believes he’s entitled to half of my share'

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    Man and woman talking with middle-man
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    AITA for not giving my brother half of my inheritance and instead offering him a job and long-term financial support?

    My grandmother passed away several years ago. In her original trust, she left $25k to each of her four grandchildren, and the remaining $1.2M was split
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    between her two sons. Two years before she d d, she amended the trust and changed the distribution so that the $1.2M would instead be split between
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    two of the grandchildren - me and my cousin. The other two grandchildren (including my brother) were not included.
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    After her d th, it was discovered that the trustee was stealing money from the trust. I personally paid over $30k in legal fees to
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    fight this in court and was able to recover $200k of the $400k that was unaccounted for. Once everything is finalized, I'll receive
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    Lawyer assisting his client
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    somewhere around $600k, and my cousin will receive the same. Here's where the conflict comes in: my brother believes he's
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    entitled to half of my share. For context, he's 31, lives with my mom, does not currently have a job or career, and has already received his $25k gift from my
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    grandmother's trust. He's had a history of poor choices in the past, he is now making better ones but still has a ways to go.
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    I told him I did not feel comfortable just handing him a huge lump sum of cash right now. Instead, I offered him a plan: He could come work for my
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    business, and I'd pay him $100k a year (which is double what he's ever earned). • I'd set aside money in a ladder CD to remain
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    liquid, so I could gift him funds for important life events (house down payment, wedding, kids' college, etc.).
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    At first, he loved this idea. But now, he's apparently changed his mind, is unhappy with the arrangement, and has completely stopped speaking to me — and -
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    even to my son, his nephew, who had a close bond with him. I feel like I made a very generous offer - giving him both an
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    opportunity to build stability and also ensuring he'd still benefit. from the inheritance long-term. But now I'm questioning if I'm the as le for not just giving him what he wants. AITA?
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    woman with her elderly mother
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    Electrical_Fix_4340 NTA, you presented him with a golden egg and all he had to do was show up and work for it. He wants the easy handout to feel like he's living big after years of being down, but he'll burn through it and wind up where he is now. Most likely anyways
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    Connection Round3141 NTA Your grandmother effectively cut him out because she saw who he was. An entitled brat. Stop bending over backwards for this guy. You are doing so at the expense of your son. Put the money away for your son.
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    Impossible_Nebula_33 Don't give him anything times are tough these days if he thinks his too good for what you kindly offered him then he can go on about his business and you set yourself up for a nice retirement. And set your children up for generational wealth. NO GOOD DID GOES UNPUNISHED.
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    Regular_Boot_3540 You made a very generous offer. Your brother probably resents being treated like an incompetent child, but if he examines his own past behavior, he'll understand why. $600,000 is nice but is finite, and you're wise to conserve it. NTA
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    No_Jaguar67 • 15h ago Why subvert your grandmothers wishes? It's your money and you could do great things, supporting your d dbeat sounding brother probably isn't one of those things. The fact that he is balking at your offer shows why he got $25 grand, and should be proof enough that you shouldn't waste your time. NTA but be as wise as your grandmother thought you were.
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    muscularmatzoball Yta. You are giving yourself all of the power in this arrangement, without really deserving it. If your grandma wants to give you a fortune and him a pittance by comparison, that is her choice, but it is wrong. Yes, you might not think he is responsible, but that should be his choice to make with the money. If he spent it all and wanted your share, it'd be a different question, and you would be in the right, but you are being a controlling and entitled ah here.
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    grayblue_grrl "and has completely stopped speaking to me' That's called the trash taking itself out. He doesn't want to work for the money or anything really. NTA
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    bostonfenwaybark NTA. Would you be willing to make the same offer to me? I would be more than happy to accept!

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